The belief that there is something wrong is the cause of all your stress.
Just to be clear, I’m not the first person to say that. Buddhists would say something like: suffering comes from resistance rather than from the thing itself.
And my favourite quote along these lines is from Byron Katie in Loving What Is:
“When I argue with reality, I lose—but only 100 percent of the time.”
In my meditation practice, we identify three different versions of the belief that there is something wrong:
There is something wrong with my life.
There is something wrong with the world.
There is something wrong with me.
And we can find plenty of evidence for all three. The voice in our head is very good at giving it to us.
But what if your life was unfolding exactly as it is meant to? With just the right balance of joy and sadness, comfort and discomfort, ease and struggle.
What if the world is fine just as it is, for reasons that perhaps we don’t understand?
And what if you are perfect just the way you are? Perfect in all your imperfections?
If that were the case, this moment would be perfect just as it is.
And you could relax a little.
(Or a lot.)
