You know the one. The one that gives you a running commentary on how you are going.
Well – if you’re like me you probably have more than one. I think the two most insidious are “I’m not good enough” and “I don’t deserve this.”
The doubt caused by these little voices is one of the biggest obstacles many thought leaders face on their journey to establishing a black belt practice. “Me, a black belt, who am I kidding?”
I think the quality of your self-talk is critical to your ability to implement successfully. The more confident you are in your abilities, the more likely you are to take on projects that matter. I also believe that confidence can be a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Here’s some ways I work to make my self-talk an asset, rather than a liability:
I’m selective in who I allow to give me feedback. It’s not that I don’t want feedback - I have mentors and coaches who are experts in the art of presenting and whom I trust to tell me what I am doing well and what I can improve upon. Matt Church wrote a great piece about this a few years ago – don’t ask turkeys to judge an eagle!.
I keep a Legend File in Evernote of all the nice things people have said about me. I set myself a reminder to read it at the end of each month.
I create positive delusions
Our thoughts become habitual just as much as our actions do. And overtime it is possible to improve the quality of our self-talk.