Are you neurotic?

I was talking recently at a Thought Leaders event where we were talking about our relationship to time, and my good friend and business partner Matt Church was sitting in the back of the room. He captured what I was saying in a beautiful model.

Having Matt capture your thoughts in a Pink Sheet (the tool we use in Thought Leaders to capture our intellectual property) is a bit like going to a photo shoot with Picasso, and then at the end having him say “while you getting your photo taken there, I just whipped up this portrait of you – here you go.”

The Pursuit of Happiness

The United States Declaration of Independence (penned by Thomas Jefferson back in 1776) starts off by saying “we hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”

However as far as I can tell, pursuing happiness doesn’t actually make us any happier. The things that by all rights should make us happier (a better job, house, relationship, car, holiday, more money) actually don’t.

Whatever you think it is, you're wrong

My friend Matt Church tells me that every feeling we have is because of a chemical. He’s right (and he’s a biochemist, so he should know).

When we feel happy, it’s because a hit of dopamine has been released into a certain part of our brain. When we feel scared it’s because of some other chemical.

Our mind then does something interesting. It labels the feeling, and then it makes a conclusion about why we’re feeling like that.

It’s not personal

Last week our friend Suzanna came over to look after Scarlett for a while. Scarlett was having none of it, like only a two-year-old can.

“No Suzanna! … Daddy doesn’t have to go.” And then the tears.

Of course it wasn’t personal about Suzanna, it was just that she wasn’t mum or dad. (And when I peeked back in the window a full 60 seconds after I left them they were happily playing together.)